I’m all for being turned on by what turns you on and experimenting, but messaging other people, be them men or women, is unacceptable. You need to tell him how you feel and ask yourself if you really want to be with somebody who is messaging other people and already on the first rung of the cheating ladder. If he is gay and not knowing where to turn or how to feel, hence secretly messaging men, then try and be understanding. It is not nice to feel alone and confused. But be firm. It is not right to mess somebody around and hurt somebody either. If he is also interested in women and you decide to give him another chance then I wish you the best of luck. Just defuse the situation before it goes too far x
I’m sorry to hear that you’re so lonely but it sounds like you have a great relationship with your friend. This is a common issue in different gender friendships and it is completely natural to be attracted to her. If you love talking to her and her personality, and not just her physical beauty, then it sounds like you really do like this girl and want more than sex. If this is the case then go for it, the worst thing that can happen is she says she doesn’t feel the same way and you stay in the same situation as now. The best is that you begin a wonderful relationship with her. If the first thing happens then don’t be too crushed, it’s important to respect her wishes. It’s even more important that you make sure you keep her as a friend as it sounds like you have a really lovely friendship. Also, if she says no, there’s plenty more fish in the sea. You just have to open your eyes and take the plunge x
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I’m really sorry to hear that you went through that, it really fucking sucks, but I am so happy to hear that you have found somebody who you can trust and can be with. I think the most important thing here is that you are definitely 100% ready. If you’re not, please do not be pressured into doing anything you to don’t want to. This is your personal journey and he needs to support you, not send you two steps back. If you are ready then that is wonderful and very brave. Just think about about how it will be such a massive step in your progress and how much it will be sticking your middle finger up at the person who raped you. Think about all the great things about this guy and how you deserve to be happy and be able to enjoy such a beautiful, natural thing as sex. What the rapist did was despicable, not the act itself. I really wish you the best of luck xox
I love this question. I think there’s a part of us in us all that is attracted to members of the opposite sex so I think that it is possible. But I also believe that in a situation like this where the person is your bestest friend, feelings can get confused. There’s a difference between loving somebody dearly and loving somebody dearly and in a sexual way too. Try and see if you can imagine you two being together as a couple. If you can’t, then it’s probably just a passing girl crush, something that e-v-e-r-y single girl in the world has been through. If you decide you really are in love with her, then that is also cool and maybe you should tell her how you feel. If she’s a dick about it, maybe you shouldn’t be friends.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to touch your boyfriend and experiment. As long as you really trust this guy and can imagine looking back in the future and being glad that he was your first, then I say go for it. If you’re not ready, then of course you should wait, but if you are, 16 is legal and if you’re safe it’s completely okay.